onlyblackgirl:

twinkletwinkleyoulittlefuck:

thepreciousthing:

adire-adire:

victorysunshine:

goldfish-kisses:

geek-in-a-box:

martiemcfly:

WHY ARENT THERE ADULT-SIZED PLAYGROUNDS

LIKE EVERYTHING IS THE SAME AS A KIDS PLAYGROUND

BUT BIGGER

WHY DO WE NOT HAVE THOSE

theme parks. just. theme parks.

but u have to pay for theme parks

that’s the adult part

son of a bitch

ladies and gentlemen, behold

the St. Louis City Museum:

Playground for adults and children.

They even serve alcohol.

I know where we’re going guys

This requires entirely too much physical activity.

kloroformkettlingur:

sjotter:

megmerilees:

shamenthename:

dandymeowth:

themixedfeminist:

kereeachan:

themixedfeminist:

tobeyisprochoice:

They think that forcing everyone to continue their pregnancy, whether they’re able to or not, will not have any negative effects on that person’s mental/physical/emotional health.

As if.

Even if they do believe that there is a risk, they see it as minimal as best or as something that wouldn’t be anywhere as “bad” than if that person gets an abortion.

I think it’s tied into the promotion of the “natural” we see in a lot of different arenas (similar to anti-vaxxers and people who are blanket anti GMO without udnerstanding the nuance) where the idea is that since women’s bodies are “designed” to do the thing, that must mean the thing has no danger to it.

So having the baby is “natural” while using outside means to abort the baby is “unnatural” and thus MUST carry more risk because of being not-natural.

I think it’s a combo of general lack of education (most people know very, very little about pregnancy in a scientific sense or medical sense–for crying out loud, some congressmen thought you’d see the baby if you put a camera down the mom’s throat) and the fact that pregnancy itself is often only presented as a risk of sex in that “you’ll have a baby, then!” which reduces pregnancy down to the outcome, ignoring how long it takes and the effect it has.

There needs to be a lot more education about the duration and effects of pregnancy. Like, my mother had a comparatively easy one…until a month til the due date when apparently I decided to threaten her life by making her blood pressure go haywire. THEN they tried to force her to dilate and it didn’t even happen with a nurse’s idea of “scream at her that this should be working” and had to give up on that and go to a C section. The epidural needle then made my aunt faint (she pretended she’d lost a contact to not panic mom) and mom doesn’t recall much else.

THEN after all that, they couldn’t boot her from the hospital fast enough once she was awake and coherent post-surgery, an attitude a lot of pregnant women face. Thankfully we had no complications other than me being a little shit who only wanted to drink a tiny bit once an hour or so, but allegedly I was an easy baby outside of that.

I mean, there are so many women who DO have complications after being sent home after having a baby, “naturally” via the vagina or via C-section. And a ton of them have no idea what to do because again, no one really talks about this shit. People act like the only issue with having a baby is “losing your figure” when there’s a whole lot more going on there.

We need a LOT more education on this subject to reach people.

A lot of medical research that is out about pregnancy is also centered on saving or prolonging the life of the fetus or the newborn. Most hospitals have procedures on what to do to save a newborns life but not on how to save the mother’s life. This is the reason why the US has such a high maternal mortality rate (highest mortality rate compared to other developed countries) that is only increasing.

This of course isn’t helped at all by anti-abortion laws that make it harder for people with life threatening or potentially life threatening pregnancies to get an abortion. Texas saw an increase in maternal mortality rate after they put in all of those TRAP laws a few years back.

Hell, in the United States it’s safer to get a legal abortion than it is to give birth. But you never see a pro-lifer talking about that.

The fact pregnancy discrimination exists should be telling, honestly.

Not just the mistreatment in the hospital and other reproductive violence – such as forced epidurals, “the husband stitch”, forced C-sections, etc – but the mistreatement of pregnant people in their daily lives.

People will touch you without your permission. Grab you, even. Ask you invasive questions. Follow you. Try to do things “for” you.

But also at the same time, complain about anything and you’re just whining and lazy. Can’t stand for 8+ hours? Whining and lazy. Having cramps and pain? Whining and lazy. Can’t lift heavy items? Whining and lazy. Need to use the bathroom a lot? Whining and lazy.

I remember having to defend pregnancy as a temporary disability to numerous people in my life. They just don’t see how or why a pregnancy needs to be treated like someone is significantly injured and hindered. It’s “just” pregnancy.

They don’t even know the lifelong alterations and complications that come with it. It’s not even just “risky” pregnancy but pregnancy in general. I don’t think I’ve ever known a single mother who didn’t have urinary incontinence directly as a result of pregnancy. And that’s on the “lesser” side of the potential problems you can be landed with even with a totally normal pregnancy. Pregnancy literally moves, squishes, stifles, and crushes the organs and muscles in your body, often causing permanent damage and/or atrophy. People don’t think about it, they don’t know it.

When I first got into sexology and sex education and read about reproductive and sexual health myths, I thought, surely people can’t be THIS misinformed and uninformed. But, by god, if people (particularly cis men and prolifers) aren’t making a competition out of who can be the most disastrously wrong about this shit… 

I had my daughter four years ago. Four years ago I was pretty healthy, no major issues, and overall a pretty good candidate for having a baby. My OB was supportive of it, and I felt pretty good throughout the pregnancy.

I had her after 21 hours of labor. 21. Seriously, I was forced to stay awake, and not allowed to eat ANYTHING. My blood sugar was nonexistent, and they would only let me have water and ice. Thankfully, my daughter and I both made it. But my problems were only just starting.

Not with my baby, no, she was perfect. It was with the healthcare system. You see, since I had “no complications” my OB wanted me to try and have another. Pressured me about it every time I saw him. They were passive aggressive about me wanting birth control, and tried to talk me into having just one more “little blessing”. It got to the point that I switched offices.

It wasn’t only that either.

You see, babies get all of their nutrients from the mothers. My daughter took anything I wasn’t supplying in spades from my body. When my wisdom teeth FINALLY came in they were hollow. I have crippling migraines, bone spurs, and a cracked tailbone that all resulted from the pregnancy. And yes, I’m slightly incontinent. Everyone thinks it’s funny when you sneeze or laugh to hard and pee when you’re pregnant. It’s not funny when you’re post pregnancy anymore. People just think its gross.

My life changed forever. In some ways good, but in a lot of ways bad. I’m 25 and feel like I’m 40, but doctors just say I’m out of shape. The reality is that we need them to learn more about post pregnancy outside of the baby blues. Its terrifying to see all the other 20 somethings with tons of energy and no issues and wonder what’s happened to my own body.

I’m scared. And no one cares because my daughter was born, and that’s all that matters.

One of the key phrases in all this is the idea that we were “designed” to have children, so the fact that it’s “natural” means that it’s safe. But here’s the thing. We weren’t “designed” for childbirth, we evolved to give birth the way we do at a success rate just high enough to continue and grow the species. Nature does not care if five or ten or twenty percent of us die in the process. Did enough of us succeed in birthing a surviving child? Cool, that’s all we need to continue as we are. There was no “design” involved. Evolution simply doesn’t work that way. We all have this idealistic notion that evolution seeks to perfect life, when all it actually does is get us to the point of being good enough to either survive or die out.

This idea that evolution is a conscious force that molded us into perfect beings is not only bullshit, it’s actually harmful in cases like this.

Butting in here with a fun fact! We evolved to use sex as a social tool, not as a reproductive one. You can see this because one of the only other species that faces each other during sex is the Bonobo. There has been studies that have shown that they use sex to form bonds and destress. Humans, like bonobos, have developed the ability to use sex as a social purpose. The fact that you can derive pleasure from sex also shows us that it’s not really for reproduction. There’s even sexual organs that exist in humans only for creating pleasure. If we were meant to have sex only for reproduction, we wouldn’t have this, as most mammals do not seem to derive pleasure from sex. Our species is not meant to fuck just to have babies. We were literally developed to fuck for fun and to bond.

Reblogging because agreed and because OTTERS

kloroformkettlingur:

deadpan-snarkeet:

coffeeandcomposition:

becketts-one-and-done:

thexfiles:

hanniballecterlicious:

thexfiles:

suicidal people deserve a space to talk about their suicidal feelings without risking hospitalization/institutionalization or being accused of being manipulative or attention seeking

It’s a therapist. The word you’re looking for is a therapist.

wrong

The second a therapist thinks you’re even slightly suicidal (ie. Whenever you even say the word suicide) they “pink slip” you, which means you get sent to a mental hospital against your will.

I think about suicide almost every day, but it doesn’t always mean I’m gonna go kill myself.

I just want to say, as someone who has taken courses in ethics and regulations regarding psychology and therapy and has worked at a counseling center for more than five years, THIS SHOULD NOT BE THE CASE. The only time a therapist or other healthcare provider is required to report suicidal or homicidal ideation is if there is a specific plan. I am deeply sorry to anyone who has ever experienced a therapist who acted otherwise. To the person above, I am not sure what your experience has been, but I promise you it is not a typical one, at least not in the area where I live (California). I have never heard of a “pink slip”, and I’ve worked with therapists for 5+ years.  

Going to a therapist changed my life. I was able to open up and say “I think about suicide almost every day”, and for the first time in my life someone said “You don’t have to live like this.” She didn’t have me hospitalized, she didn’t raise any alarms. She gently asked me if I had a specific plan, and when I said no, she said “We are going to help you get better.” 

YOUR THERAPIST ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT HAVE YOU HOSPITALIZED AT THE MERE MENTION OF SUICIDAL IDEATION. 

If you say, “I’m going to kill myself tonight by overdose,” then yes, they are required by law to have you hospitalized. Otherwise it is THEIR JOB to help you process your feelings and find a way to help you function and feel better. 

I cannot be more emphatic about this. Therapists, by and large, are here to help, not to hospitalize. If you have health insurance, contact them today to find out about your mental health coverage. Go to your general care doctor and tell them how you’re feeling so that they can refer you to the right person. If you don’t have health insurance, find a resource for a free/reduced fee clinic near you. Marriage and Family Therapist Interns are a great option, as they often see clients on a sliding fee scale. PLEASE GET HELP.

LISTEN TO ME: YOU CANNOT LEGALLY BE HOSPITALIZED AGAINST YOUR WILL FOR SUICIDAL IDEATION. FEAR OF HOSPITALIZATION SHOULD NOT STOP YOU FROM SEEKING HELP. 

I understand that many people have hospital related trauma, and I understand, and sympathize. Talk to me. Send me a message. I will be happy to find you further information on laws and regulations in your area, referrals to other counseling centers, or even just listen to what you have to say. 

I couldn’t in good conscience scroll past this without saying something. As someone who struggled with depression for much longer than I should have because of fear of seeking treatment, I want to encourage everyone, experiencing any degree of mental illness to get help. I will do anything I can to support those of you going through something like this. I’m here for you. 

I literally talk to my therapist about suicidal ideation all the time and all she’s ever done is have me clarify that I wasn’t planning on acting on it. I’m tired of tumblr discouraging people from trusting mental health professionals.

I’ve admitted to suicidal thoughts to a doctor. I was referred to therapy but required to go, nevermind forcefully admitted to a psychiatric hospital. I recently spoke to my pcp about my diagnosis (depression /anxiety ) and though I’m no longer suicidal, they didn’t try to admit me because I had a history. They assured me multiple times that their behavioral specialists were always available.

shameshack:

shameshack:

Ridicule them and shut them out of the movement to show that LGBT spaces are not safe for pedophiles to be in. Make them feel out of place in LGBT discussions. Make it hard to admit to being a pedophile because there’s fear of backlash and exclusion. On tumblr we can make them risk being reported, ridiculed, and with luck banned through keeping records on them and making it feel like the site wants them gone.

These 3 deserved to actually be in the post because they’re all good advice

kloroformkettlingur:

informative-feminist:

People have the right to their own bodies. 

They are under no obligation to allow someone or something to use the body without their explicit, ongoing consent

People have the undeniable right to their own bodies.

Abortion is a human right. 

kloroformkettlingur:

procrastiwriting:

My main problem as a writer is that I don’t write because “I have a story to tell”. I write because there are worlds I want to visit, ideas I want to explore, people I want to meet, conversations I want to hear, emotions that I want to express, and impossibilities I want to make real.

Which means that I still need a fucking plot.

Literally my exact problem

prochoice-or-gtfo:

They cannot be trusted to handle patients who have had or who plan to have abortions with impartiality, frankly.

You have a duty of care to your patients. All of them. Not just the ones you decide are morally acceptable. If you can’t wholly check your emotions at the door, find another line of work.
-V